Over the past few years, I’ve been through hell when it comes to relationships. And I’m not just talking about romantic ones—love, family, friends, you name it. I’ve been through the wringer.
The thing is, when I enter your life with love—whether as a friend, a partner, or even just someone who genuinely cares—you’re pretty damn lucky. I know that now. I bring a lot to the table. I love deeply, I give my all, and I show up. If you need me, I’m there. No hesitation, no questions asked. That’s just who I am.
But I’ve learned I will no longer beg someone to see my worth. My self-worth is not up for negotiation, and I refuse to diminish it for anyone.
Love Shouldn’t Be a One-Way Street
For so long, I found myself holding on to people who wouldn’t do the same for me. I’d give, give, and give—only to receive breadcrumbs in return. And for what? The hope that maybe one day they’d realize what I was worth? That they’d suddenly decide I mattered?
No. I’m not playing that game anymore.
I know what I deserve. I deserve the effort. I deserve someone who shows up for me, not just when it’s convenient for them. I deserve someone who chooses me, day in and day out, the same way I would pick them.
I Won’t Tell You How to Love Me
After everything I’ve been through, I know exactly how I want to be loved. I know how I deserve to be treated. But here’s the thing—I won’t teach someone how to love me. That’s not my job.
If you care about me and truly value me, it should come naturally to want to show up for me. To make an effort. To meet me halfway. I shouldn’t have to beg for basic decency, respect, or kindness.
Real love isn’t about convincing someone to stay; it’s about two people who want to be there and choose each other. This mutual understanding and commitment, this shared journey of love, is what I seek in my relationships, and I believe it’s out there for me.
I Choose Me
So, if you can’t love me how I need to be loved, that’s fine. I won’t chase you. I won’t beg. I won’t twist myself into knots trying to make you see my worth. Instead, I’ll assert my worth and walk away, empowered by the knowledge that I deserve more. This is not a defeat but a victory in choosing myself, a decision that fills me with strength and self-respect.
Instead, I’ll walk away.
Because at the end of the day, I’d rather be alone than settle for anything less than what I deserve. And I deserve real, unwavering, undeniable love. This is not a compromise but a validation of my self-worth.
And when the right people come along—the ones who see me, appreciate me, and love me effortlessly—I won’t have to beg.
Because they’ll already know.
